She is 30 years old, I am 24. She works at the gym I am going. When I went there yesterday, she asked me the typical "How are you" and I told her that "I've been better". She asked me why and we talked for about half and hour for multiple topics. She told me that I am mature, I complimented her, mentioning that her parents did a good job with her. I ask her if she works in the morning shift and what's her favorite coffee beverage. I was thinking of getting to the gym with a cup of coffee tomorrow, asking her if we could possibly meet in weekend. I could also take the pressure off, by giving her my phone and let her call me. What do you think?
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You know, it's kind of a tough call. If this were a normal situation, I wouldn't like the passive nature of giving her your number but in your case, I think that that's the way to go. While it's not exactly the same, shortly after college, I knew a lot of women who worked waitress jobs. They would talk about how you should never ask out a girl who's working because they always hated getting asked out. The problem that they'd talk about is that there's a conflict of interest. They're trying to be friendly and flirtatious to get a good tip, but at the same time, they don't want to lead a guy on or upset him by rejecting him outright. Their take was that they just wished that guys could enjoy the flirting but always leave it at that.
So yeah, it's not quite the same but I like the plan of either doing nothing until you're more certain, or just slipping her your number. But even slipping her number could be awkward if she sees you every day so just be ready to drop it altogether if she never calls.0