i am a 24 year old woman and i hate making mistakes, i know they are a part of life but when i make a mistake i get depressed, severly and very emotional, when i used to make a mistake when i was a child i would get beaten or yelled at or cursed at so as a result i became very strict on myself, almost to the point of not really ;living life because im too scared to make mistakes. I've moved out recently but how can i deal with this?
Most Helpful Guy
Here's one of my favorite quotes:
"It is not the critic who counts, nor the man who points how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly... who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." - Teddy Roosevelt
You know who does everything right? Nobody. You know that not doing things is 'doing something' as well? There's no safe path. You have to take -reasonable- chances and learn from them.1
Most Helpful Girl
Well, mistakes are something that you do want to avoid. That is not a problem. The point is simply learning to find out who you are as your own person, but smart and wise with your decisions. Growing up in a strict environment isn't a problem at all. The problem lies in HOW your parents were teaching you, not what you were taught. There was no need for you to go through domestic violence at home and be abused in that manner. You only take what you've learned from them, and do things one step at a time. Don't just get involved with any and everybody without evaluating them first. For not everybody is your friend, nor want to be your friend. People will use you because of your insecurities and ignorance of the world around you. So you need to always be alert and be prepared to deal with problems that can hinder you from living the way you need to live your life.0