He won't go anywhere without me, he won't even meet his friends unless i'm there with him. He's always trying to hold my hand and hug me and be near me and it's slightly annoying because i think in a relationship you should be able to do things on your own and have space when it's needed. Should i say something or will that annoy him and hurt his feelings?
Most Helpful Guy
It will annoy him and hurt his feelings and he loves you. I recognize these symptoms. At the same time, you should be able to have some freedom without him. So, for awhile, either:
1. Do some "girls only" activities.
2. Get him to things without you or his friends. Maybe study more or go shopping or promote a hobby or whatever.
In both of these instances, what is important is he gets used to the idea of having to live without you while still being in a relationship with you.
That said, from experience, I will tell you the following:
1. You may create a monster. For instance, if your boyfriend becomes into computer games, he may become an addict and you will become a gamer widow. (http://gamerwidow. com/)
2. Once you have that space, you might actually then begin to want to be with someone else and eventually dump your boyfriend leaving him heartbroken. For you though, you MAY meet a better guy, but you might not and, years later, realize that you threw away a man who genuinely loved you... all because you needed space.
The bottom line is the old adage: Be careful what you wish for; you just might get it.0
Most Helpful Girl
"i think in a relationship you should be able to do things on your own and have space when it's needed."
Tell him this. That you are happy with the relationship but as a person you just need "personal time" once in a while. If he has issues with it or worries that you are going to cheat or something ridiculous like that, then point out that this is his insecurity speaking. You have done nothing that is suspicious (I'm assuming) and wanting time alone to recharge is a completely normal thing. Being distrustful when your partner has done nothing is unhealthy. Both for the person with the insecurity and for the relationship.
If you have a need it's important to communicate with your partner so that you can both work out how to make sure each person's needs are fulfilled. Poor communication will just leave people feeling resentful or oblivious about their partner's unhappiness. Nobody is a mind reader.0