So I've been dating this girl for about 2 months now after meeting her online. Things have been great. We have good chemistry, intimacy is there and we're always having fun. With my anxiety problems, I feel like I am more attracted to her than she is to me though. She still initiates contact and asks about future plans together but it feels like I'm more invested. She's even playfully asked if I'm talking to other girls from the dating website (I said no) Into a month dating, we went on a 3 day trip which was a great intimate moment for the both of us. The next week she came over to my place to spend the night and we had sex. Afterwards I calmly asked her what she thought about being exclusive. She first said yes, but after questioning her tone she said she doesn't want to say no but that she'll have to think about it. She claims she's not seeing anybody and neither am I so I don't know what the hold up is. Do I wait for her to bring it up or should I? Did I jeopardize my chances?
Most Helpful Girl
Your guess is as good as ours, if not better, as to what's going on in her mind. Other than obviously not being certain about whether or not she wants to be exclusive with you or not so.. I wouldn't count on that too much.
Should you wait for her to bring it up? Well.. that's kind of your only option unless you want to come across as needy/overly persistent when it's already pretty clear that she's leaning towards a 'no'. You already left the ball in her court so.. just wait.0
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Most Helpful Guy
You're sounding a little needy, to ask that in the first place and then question her tone... It can be a turn off. You mentioned your anxiety problems and that could be part of it, it's making you insecure.
It's usually girls who bring up that conversation, not the other way around. You're living in a scarcity mindset right now, you don't need to commit to her. Yes, you probably really like her.. But there's tons of other girls out there and I believe the reason why you're wanting to commit to her is because you're scared of losing her, you shouldn't be. You need to take a step away from all that and just go with the flow.
If I'm dating a girl, I'll just let things be, and if she ever feels the need for validation and wants to confirm our relationship, that's up to her, but I don't need to confirm it. That's just needy, if she wants to go have sex with other guys than I'll just stop seeing her, bu I don't need her to verbally tell me we're 'exclusive' because I honestly don't care. Most guys wouldn't even want that conversation, most guys would be happy to keep things the way they are and still have the option of seeing other girls. Most girls aren't players to the same degree that guys are, they'll want to tie things down, leave it up to her.3
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