We are not compatible? wtf does that mean?

He chose compatible lifestyles over our chemistry... what the fuck does that mean ''we dont fit''? if he truly wanted me he could have made it work right? he chose a rich girl and compatibility over a girl who comes from a dysfunctional family and is poor... the richer girl is less attractive but obviously he liked her... i just found it so fake... why would you sacrifice love over lifestyle? money? status?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Because real life isn't a Disney movie. To most guys attractiveness is most important but to some like the guy that dumped you other things are. Just find someone else that doesn't care about your family or your bank account, only you.

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What Guys Said 11

  • The fact is that everyone has a right to choose what works for them. Some people value money over all and that's their choice. We have the choice to disagree and to make our own choices. It's a shame that this guy had different priorities to you but it highlights that he just wasn't the right guy for you. So he's done you a favour really.

    You can now find someone who has the same values as you and that person will be much more deserving of you.

    Compatibility is important in terms of compatibility of vision for the future, compatibility of personalities, compatibility of interests. Compatibility of income is less important to most although, again, for some it will be very important.

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  • Compatibility is far more important compared to chemistry when it comes to building a family or strong future with someone. You can find chemistry in friends with benefits, friendships or one-night stands. Chemistry is just finding people you click with or connect with on a basic level, or people who you find it easy to interact with.
    Compatibility more has to do with what values both parties uphold, their background, and If they have the same views in terms of how they see their future. Two people with opposing values, or opposing future life plans are incompatible and will make a bad marriage.

    I've seen you ask this same compatibility/chemistry before. So sorry that you are going through pain and hurting atm. Advice, after a break up, the best thing you can do for yourself is to focus on your hobbies, go out more, hang out with friends, meet new people but for friendship as it is too early to be considering getting into another relationship. You should also work on yourself, build stronger self confidence and be a better person so that better guys will be attracted to you. I wish the best for you, take care.

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  • Happens all the time in the USA. It used to be, most, the girl going for the money, in the past, but now sometimes it's girls being dumped in this way.

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  • He left you because of questions like this. The fact you don't understand why he left was why he left.

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  • He told you why it wouldn't work. Stop questionin it. Sometimes things don't work out. It sucks but move on

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  • Take away (or reverse) the fact that she's rich and you're not and it doesn't sound nearly so bitter on your part.

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  • Not compatible means that you two aren't meant to be together, not the right one for eachother

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  • that means you are not comparable. think of it like this, he sees the rich girl as the ipad and he sees you as the black berry phone.

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  • its true if the differences are two great that it causes the other to lose her/hiself than its only downhill unless counseling is taken

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  • There were girls who seemed cute and who I got along with pretty well, but we hadn't had similar life styles, so they didn't make it.

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  • I don't think he loves you.

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What Girls Said 4

  • Because compatibility IS important. If you do not get along with someone or feel like you have much in common then it's pointless. Even if there is chemistry. Lust and chemistry is not enough in the long run. You need compatibility and to see eye to eye on things otherwise the relationship is doomed as not all is based on chemistry.

    And you are right. If someone wants to make it work, they will. Unfortunately, he didn't and therefore he wasn't the right match for you.

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  • Love has 0 to do with what you are looking for in a partner. Love is a choice. And regardless to what, love is not enough to sustain a proper and mature relationship. Which is why many teen and young adult relationships fail because they believed in the lie instead of the truth, which tends to get them into serious trouble. But if he already foresees implications that are not going to be beneficial for the both of you, then it was wise that you two end it. You can try to make it work. But just because he didn't want to, it doesn't all the time mean that he was lying. Some people can try to make it work, and others depending on what it is can't.

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  • nope, wrong

    means you guys can't get along in harmony; too many differences or just not flexible enough or adjustable enough with each other's personality.

    That is a deal breaker for me too.

    It's not about lifestyle. It's that you are just not a fit to his personality, and if he stays with you he will only face the struggle of disagreements.
    or something like that.

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  • He's a piece of shit. Honestly that's just a bs term to dump you. He's not even a man if he cares for money and can't earn it himself so you're better off without him.

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