So I've been on 4 dates with this guy over a couple of months. Really started to like him, I met some of his friends the other night and they were referring to me as his "girlfriend" and he didn't say anything. So I just went along with it and laughed.
Later that evening we went back to his place and he initiated sex, but I politely declined. He was okay with it, but I felt awkward so decided to drive home rather than sleep over. He didn't even contact me the next day to ask if I got home okay or initiate any conversation. I text him to say how bad it was of him and he didn't even reply. Do I confront or just leave it? Was he just after sex?
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Hi sorry it turned out like this, kind of sucks.
You have two options,
1 Leave it, put out down to experience and remember in future to have some sort of sex chat after the first time you get steamy, that way you set some expectations. AT LEAST you should make it clear... if I come over to yours I'm not jumping into bed with you, you can always be playful when you say this, as in we can play but no sex, but personally I don't even go there, as not to tempt or send the wrong signal.
2. Be honest, say that you like him, and the reason you stopped is nothing he did or that you don't like him, you just have values that mean I like to wait, to make sure I'm giving my body to the right man. You could say how you understand that some men like girls who are more easy, and that your sorry you didn't explain that earlier.
Leave it at that, if he doesn't reply then you lucky got away.
Hope you work it out :)0