so I've been in the online dating scene longer than I'd care to say and it hasn't really worked for me. I've made a few friends on there had 2 or 3 hookups as well but I've never been able to find some who I like or who likes me enough to start a relationship. the problem is that I've never learned how to talk to girls I don't know in person due to the ever dreaded fear of rejection. since the definition of insanity is trying the same thing and expecting different results I figure it's time to try something new. so is deleting my account a good idea based on the information above and if so what are some tips to ease the transition from online to reality?
Most Helpful Girl
I think keeping the account is the best thing. Ideally you want to try different avenues to meet someone. Try signing up for some activities in your area. Take a class, do something where you will meet lots of women. Some suggestions are like a Christmas planter workshop, a painting class, or a cooking class. Do something where there will be women there. Even if it's older women, some of them might have daughters they could set you up with.
Don't rule out opportunities to meet people. You may go to some things where it's a wash and you don't meet any women. But there's always a chance. Keep an open mind.
Also, don't be afraid of rejection. Rejection is the worst that could happen, and you know what, plenty of women out there! So don't lose hope!0
Most Helpful Guy
Easiest way to ease yourself into interacting with women and picking them up is to just talk to them normally at first. Don't feel the need to be hitting on them, just strike up a real conversation.
Ask her an opinion on something, say hi and be friendly, give her a compliment. When you aren't "seeking" something women will sense that and be more at ease too as they are experts at reading men. This will mainly help you build confidence speaking with women though and if things go well you can always ask for their number.
"how to talk to girls" is a really broad question and topic, but you definitely don't have to be a master at it either to get girls. I think online dating is a great way to supplement live dating so I don't think you need to get rid of it. A lot of the conversations you have through online, you can certainly have in person as well so that's a great easy way to help work on your game :)1