Alright girl and guys story time :/
There is this girl I have been friends with for the last 3 years and I have been wanting her for just as long but she dose not see me the same Way or at least did not she told someone when they asked how she felt about me "don't do this to me we are just really good friends" but over the last 2 weeks (after she said that) we have been hanging out like very day and I can't tell if things are changing just today we went to a play just us and she bought me a cookie (not that that is important but still) we have played the sexy game who's the biggest slut so it's safe to say she's very comfortable around me she's not a girly girl by any means but I'm actually like going crazy here and don't know ere else to turn. We do swim team every morning so she's one of the first people I see almost every day be for high school. There is a school dance coming up and she took me to prom last year as a friend to be part of a group of friends and it was a really fun time I have asked her to this dance very causally but she's not sure if she wants to go. Should I ask her more formally to go or just leave it how it is? And if she says yes should I try to make a move during the dance or should I just give up now and try to find a different girl? (Sorry for how little sense this probably made) :D (photo from prom just cause why not)
Most Helpful Girl
Dont give up on something you want, take chances. keep hanging out more and ask her to prom and tell her how you feel, you won't know until you try, she could actually like you but it could be hard for her to show it, but also she could just want to stay friends but give it a try.1
Most Helpful Guy
I saw the comment, saying move on and the other about the body language not being there.
And while those opinions aren't completely wrong, I will say this man, a girl can show you all the signs in the world, and from an outside perspective someone will tell you, bro why aren't you dating her she's so into you, and I'm talking holding hands, sharing food and drinks, hands around waist, text, having your stuff in her locker, saying I love you and this girl can still not be into you.
But a girl that doesn't appear to be into you with body language and her actions, can actually just be conservative and reserved and actually as nervous as you are and be ABSOLUTELY into you.
My opinion is make the move, let your actions speak louder than any words you're thinking of saying. You're not forcing yourself on her, you're GOING in for a kiss or a lingered touch on the hand or arm, some kind of physical touch that will let you see where you stand. She'll either contribute, seem confused or outright tell you that she's not for that.
Don't waste time man, the best time is when things are as they are now & the friendship is at its highest point. Escape the friendzone brother, you can do it.1