OK I'm 19 and currently considering dating a 51 year old, we have tons in common, get along great, love each other very much, and I just have such strong feelings for him…. but he's been married before and has 3 kids, two of which are 18 and currently live with him. what should I do? I really like him but I'm not so sure how this will turn out, and the fact that he has kids kinda creeps me out.
p.s. and I know what your all going to say, he's not a pedophile, so get that notion out of your head :)
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I would not do it. It isn't just the age difference but the fact that even if you like one another, think about your future. Look at his children and realize he has a past much longer than your own. I dated a guy with a child once. He was fourteen years older than me and at the time I told myself that it didn't matter.
I didn't want to see that as creepy, but I did. I didn't want to look at his child and remind myself how old I was when he had that child, but I did. We had a lot in common, but it was too much for me. I was 19 at the time and to this day the thought creeps me out.
Your situation is much different when it comes to ages. Don't consider dating him when you could and should be dating his children. Even if you think you'll get past it, think about what it would do to them. You may think otherwise, but you are still young and stupid at 18. I'm still young and stupid at 21. It goes away with experience.
You don't want this potential relationship to hurt them or yourself. Think about it seriously. We are all serious, trying to help you. You wouldn't be asking this here looking for serious answers if you didn't already know how wrong it is.1