OK, so there is this guy. I'm 19 he's 23 and we've talked online, texted and talked on the phone for a long time. We've known each other for about a year and a half now. Now, he's from South Carolina and I reside in California. He tells me all the time, that he likes me and everything, and I like him too. I've come to think of him as the friend who will always be there no matter what. But he tells me he loves me all the time. The feelings are totally mutual, but I love him as a friend. So anyway, he told me on Friday if I had any plans this weekend, and I told him I did. He said he's going to be in Vegas with friends and he wants to come pick me up so that I can be with him and we can hang out for a while. He wants to take me to dinner and go paint-balling. It would have been cool, but, I don't know his friends like that. And their all guys that are his age. What if they see me as some immature college chick and they convince him to stop talking to me?So since I never called him back, I don't want him to think I was bullsh*tting him or anything. So what should I do? What if he stops talking to me, because I didn't take the opportunity to hang out with him? Am I being paranoid? Should I call him back or what? Please help me. I'm stuck. I am thinking of my safety, but I really trust him and I'm usually a really good judge of character. Its just his friends..Who I don't know.
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The bigger issue here is your relationship with this guy. You've stated multiple times that you only want friendship from him. That's fine, but he says he loves you. Have you told him that you want nothing in the way of a romantic relationship? You need to make that clear with him.
Next, I would pass on his idea for a meeting. For any first meeting with someone you've never met before from the Internet (and says that he loves you) I would meet in a public place like a Starbucks or something. Yes you've talked with him for the last year and a half, but you still don't know him that well.
Simply tell him you'd rather not meet that way and suggest maybe next time he's in town you can get together on your own with his friends not tagging along.0