OK, so I haven't done this often, and it's actually been a few years since the last time it happened, but I randomly hooked up with someone I met at a bar the other night. In the past when this has happened, I have usually not called the person, however, that does tend to make me feel badly about things. I asked a friend about this, and she said that an unwritten rule of random hookups is that you don't have to call, and both people are aware of this fact going in.
Is that true? I told her I will call, does that make a difference? I actually haven't decided whether I want to or not, because I did like her, but if I do call I want it to be because I want to, and not out of a sense of obligation.
So I guess I'd like to hear from anyone who has had a random hookup, really liked the person, had the person say he/she would call, and then he/she never does call. Are you ok with that? Take offense to it? Get p*ssed off? Etc.
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It depends. Most people going into a random hookup are aware that it doesn't equal a relationship and that there will most likely be no contact afterward. However, sometimes people hope they will call because it makes them feel special, like it was more than just a random thing. It's a thin line to walk. I would say if you don't really want to call the girl, then don't call her. However, you will most likely destroy any chance with her in the future after that if you change your mind. It's not that she would be p*ssed, just a little suspicious as to why you weren't interested in her before.
Your situation is tricky in that you said you would call her. It is a little rude to back out after that and she will assume you're not a man of your word. But either way, it was a random hookup, so I'm sure she wasn't expecting much more out of you anyway. Completely your decision.0