what would you think of your girlfriend?
Say she is really into you and you are confident you wouldn't lose her or you come across that to your girlfriend. What would you honestly think if you were gone for a week or two and you found out your current girlfriend was hanging around with her ex boyfriend?
I am just curious of what other guys think.
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Case in point: this actually came up a week ago with the girl I'm dating. Using that as an example, yes, she and I have already decided that we want to continue seeing one another and no one else. Yes, I'm confident that she's interested in me enough that she isn't going to return to her single life-- she has already said as much since we discussed the nature of our relationship at this stage. I also trust her since she's been absolutely honest with me from the time we first met. And vice versa, I've been totally honest with her. We also know that we're both pretty considerate of other people's feelings and that cheating would be like the cardinal sin of deal breakers. Given that we have that foundation, I know I'd trust her if she happened to spend time with a male friend or her ex.
So what happened last week? She told me she was hanging out with her ex-boyfriend, talking about life. They broke up a few years ago and when she first told me about him, she was very clear that she would never go back to him, she learned a lot from the relationship, she grew up, and she knows what wants now (which is not him). Nonetheless, they've known one another for many years, so they're on friendly terms. I didn't feel any jealousy when she mentioned him because he's not competition, but I was curious what they talked about. Turns out she was telling him about me and how everything has been going really well between us.
Back to your question, if I was gone for a while and she was hanging out with him, I would want to know what they did/talked about, but I probably wouldn't feel negatively about it. I might tease her about it, but ultimately act confidently to convey my sense of trust in her. Trust builds more trust.0