I was in a relationship with this kid for only a month and a half, but we had talked and were kind of dating without a title for a while before that. At first he was ecstatic and everything was great.. but after a little bit he broke it off and said he couldn't give me himself 100% and it wasn't fair to me. When we broke it off, I acted fine with it, said that I was me and it wasn't enough and there wasn't anything I could do about it. We decided to stay friends because we had made pretty good friends. It's been about 3 weeks and we had been fine, texting like we did when we were friends.
The problem lies in this. This past weekend was the first time we had seen each other since we broke up. On Friday, we were texting while I was at a wedding and when he said goodnight he included a "<3". I figured he was drunk and just ignored it and went to bed. On Saturday during the day, I was getting ready to head out to the camp where he, and all of our friends were. I texted asking if he needed anything and at the end of our convo he said "<3 'll see you soon". He hadn't sent any hearts since we were dating and after we broke up, I stayed my flirty self and he would always just dismiss any kind of flirting or anything towards him. So this confused me, but I ignored it again. That night, when I got to camp, he was already trashed. He actually took a step back when he saw me and said "Wow, you look really cu.." and stopped. That night he was very touchy/feely with me. Kissed my forehead a few times, and just basically acted how he did when we were together. He'd go off his way and talk with friends and find his way back and talk with me. He even started massaging my neck at one point and said how he owed me a massage. And later I was taking care of this other kid who was feeling pretty sick when he came in and starting talking to me. I asked why he wasn't outside with everyone having fun and he said he'd rather be inside talking with me. I kind of ignored that as well. I guess throughout the night I was a little rude, because I was frustrated with the whole thing. The next day, when he was sober, he was friendly.. but it was just a little awkward between us. I left Sunday afternoon and we hugged and said goodbye.. but we haven't spoken since. I don't know what this means.. if he was just drunk.. or if he is regretting the break up. We usually text almost everyday if just a little while we're at work. I don't know if I should text him.. and ask him what's up.. or if I should just wait for him to text me. I really wish I knew his real intentions.
Thing to keep in mind.. we're both 24 and I was his first girlfriend since high school. He'd dated, but never had anything with a title. He's also close friends with lots of girls, and I sort of get the feeling he's afraid of the commitment, and the possibility of losing all of that.
Is there a chance he'd want me back? And if so, what can I do to make him want me back.. if anything.
Thanks for reading!
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I'll be honest, in that whole story I think I only needed to read the first few sentences leading up to the conclusion, where he says: "he couldn't give me himself 100% and it wasn't fair to me. " This is a common male statement for people that age.
You are both 24 which means he probably has a hard time having one on one monogamous relationships. If you are in college, he most likely has the desire to be single and date around.
He probably does like you, but his urge to be out prowling around is greater. I wouldn't blame him for this, because when you are that age, that's pretty typical. With him liking you though, he wants the benefits of your affection (verbally, physically, emotionally) but does not want the restrictions of a monogamous, one on one relationship.
Your suspicions that he has a hard time with commitment are true, but he will not want to let your affection go. I would say you need to move on, and if it's meant to be in the future, then it is meant to be, but there is no way you can force it.0