I'm 26 years old and never had a boyfriend. At my age their are people that are married, getting engaged or having babies and I'm hating life at the moment and feel so lonely. It also doesn't help that I've never been in a relationship and I am inexperienced. I am average looking, I have a sweet personality and I would do anything for someone I love like family and friends. My only facial flaw is I have a big nose and I am considering rhinoplasty, if thats why I haven't had a boyfriend I don't know. My family says I have a heart of gold, so why don't I have a boyfriend? I do everything solo these days, I have a small circle of friends and that doesn't help because I feel even more lonely and plus I'm an only child too so naturally I am more reserved. Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to find someone.
How do I come to terms with I might never have a boyfriend, get married or have children?
What Guys Said 24
I have seen many women in relationships with big noses. I know there are people who would allow a big nose to affect whether they approach the person or not. I have to believe it might be something else besides the nose. I'm an only child as well. It can effect you, but, hopefully, not that much. If you grew up not being around other kids and adults, it would do what you feel being an only child has done to you. What kind of experiences have you had with guys in the past. Did the kids you were around make fun of your nose? That can have a big effect on a person and make you think it's a much bigger problem than it really is. I would like to help you if I can. I'd rather do it on the private messaging because I have questions and the answers will help me understand your situation and give better advice. I do this with a number of women. I will not ask for any of your private information or your name. I know you are "anonymous", so if I don't hear from you, I certainly understand.0
Well there's someone out there for everybody... but not everybody always finds that someone... I'm not quite as old as you are but I've never really had a true girlfriend either (I had a long distance but I tend not to count that these days)... but honestly... if you can't find someone to love... then find something to love... that is how you do it... you find something to do that truly makes you happy... and then you go for it... expand upon it... be so engulfed in that that you forget about even wanting to find someone... that's what I'm gonna do whether I find someone or not... but love comes when you least expect it... so if that is true then the more you look and search and want... you won't find it... it comes when you least expect it...0
Sorry but if your 26 and never had a boyfriend that is on you.
Either your requirements are way out of whack and you need to be more realistic, or your not going after men. You can't be one of these women that "oh, I am traditional and I won't make the first move" as almost all women seem to want to do. You need to go on the offensive. But with POF, Tinder, okCupid and all the other dating sites out there that are free to use, there is zero excuse for not having someone. Sure, it might not be the muscle bound stud (gross) that your looking for, but there are plenty of people out there.0
I'm an only child as well which isn't always easy. Are you not very forward? It's not your looks by the way. it's more than likely the way you act such as being shy or not confident. You need confidence which is kind of a catch 22 bc when you find someone you will get confident. have you been on dating websites?0
You don't need to worry about it. As time passes the dating place changes and guy will start looking more for girls like you that want to start families. Also lack of experience never turned away any guy or at least none that I heard of.0
I know what you mean about being an only child. It does make it a little harder to find someone, but if you really want a relationship you'll find one IF you look. You need to be open to dating and kissing a lot of frogs first. It's a numbers game, but eventually you'll win.0
My niece didn't find her man until she was 40, plenty of time left to find your guy. He should show up soon but help fate a little by being out there for example on dating sites. Personality wise you sound like a great girl that should deffinately find true love, looks wise i can't judge without a picture.
What kind of activities do you enjoy doing?0
Everything happens for a reason and at the right time. Don't become so resigned to what you perceive is your fate that you become unreceptive to possible love interests.1
well I have a big nose as well. I have never had anyone pick on my as an adult. as a kid sometimes.
have you tried to hang out with girlfriend in groups.. always some guy shows up and can strike a conversation.
you are an only child.. I have this in my life as well. my friends call me OCS (one child syndrome) as a joke
believe me not a real issue.
maybe try chatting on line..
friendly people exist all over.
you just chat you stop if you are not interesting..
lol do they have private messaging here? I can even message you. :-)
Yep, me too, same boat. Though I would like a girl instead. But you should try to learn a hobby or skill. It will help distract you from he crappy shit, and you will have something that people can be curious about1
What have you done to meet guys? What places do you go? Have you tried online dating? I don't think your nose is to blame at all, you probably haven't done much to meet guys, and once you do you'll find someone, you sound like you could be a great girlfriend to someone 🙂1
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I was single (the most recent time) right up until just before turning 25. Pay attention to your timeline, not someone else's, just because they are doesn't reflect on what you "should have" accomplished, and looking on at them will just make you impatient.
Relationships are a combination of putting yourself out there, luck, and patience, even if you're a "catch" it can take a while, especially if you're just sitting around.0
Listen, even the most fugly of people can find a relationship. It's not hard to find a relationship, not nearly as much as you might think.
What's hard is finding the right relationship. And the only way you're going to get there is through sheer determination in putting yourself out there, learning a set of patterns, and eventually landing a good match.
Use dating apps, put yourself in social situations, go where people are in places or events that interest you. Clearly, your small circle of friends isn't going to bail you out of this. All you have to count on is your own courage.0
Why do you think you'er still single? List me your reasons and I'd be happy to try answering/helping you!0
I feel the same way, it's all up to chance, some people don't get married till their fifties, sometimes people never do, it just depends if you meet someone compatible and you both find it worthwhile spending the rest of your life together. I wouldn't worry about it, being 26 you're still considered young considering some people live to be 80, I'd say don't worry about it and be open, never helps anything to rush something.0
You shouldn't come to terms with it, be more outgoing, don't expect people to approach you if you want to be in a relationship, approach them yourself.0
I don't know only you know the answer to that.0
read how to enjoy ur life and job by dale carnegie for a new perspective0
Keaton henson will comfort you and your life journey young grass hopper. once you find the words this artist speaks for you will help you move forward in life0
i find it extremely hard to believe you haven't had one encounter with a man and never dated and ur 260
Approach a guy0
I feel the same way I'm 19 and only had one girlfriend and i as well get that feeling sometimes0
If you want you can message me I'll take a look at you0
Dear dnt be so depressed.. even i am single child i knw how u feel. but dnt gv up on life.. there are so many people who would love to b with u n spend their life with u.. u will find love soon. jus dnt gv up. life is beautiful live it to d fullest till u hv it..0
What Girls Said 4
I'm 28 and I've dated a ton and had plenty of 'seeing someones' etc and short term (like 6 weeks) 'boyfriends' which just don't count but I've never had what I would call a long term relationship... unless u count that thing in my 18-21 thing where we never actually termed it a relationship so I don't think counts. So I'm like 'why can't I find someone?' too.
I also have a huge conk. I hate my nose in photos so much! But honestly I think we are our own worst critics and I doubt it affects my dating life any more than to the extent that it might bring my own self esteem down,
But yeah, both of these areas, like u, cause me insecurities. And I've lately started to ask myself if I'm just 'destined to be single'. I'm not worried about children because to me, risking your life and health for a hypothetical person is totally illogical so I don't need a man for that nonsense thankyou very much xD and if I ever want kids I can adopt anyway, plenty of women do that in their 40s even.
I think the problem is we are all brainwashed into thinking that if we don't do things that society expects us to do, we are somehow failing in life. Where as in actual fact, we don't stop to ask ourselves if its even what we really need? For me, I'd love a partner for the company aspect of things but I realise, I've come this far on my own, without anyone, and that's quite an accomplishment. One we should both be proud of. I won't spout stuff about how we should 'love ourselves before others can love us' tosh, I'm just pointing out that sometimes what we think we want isn't really what we want anyway, its what society tells us we should want. As for the stuff we do actually want, well sometimes its just not meant for us and we have to play the hand we are dealt as best we can...0
A lot of us are in the same boat, honey. I mean look at me, I had plenty of boyfriends and here I am single and lonely, being hurt and stabbed in the back so many times I lost count. The "experience" means nothing, all it gave me was a heartache, trust issues and paranoia, so yeah. Sometimes I wish I was like you and never had to deal with all that shit.0
you are not alone be paitent i am 21 never even had a. potential myself it does worry me but then i see people who have found the right person later on in life and are happy. patience is key and yes it can be quite draining waiting but the more you think and stress yourself about. it the less you will find that person0
I feel you, look at my age. No one ever was interested in me and I don't think that will change anytime soon. I think the older you get the harder it is to start dating and meeting new people. It's easier when you are at school, university, college.0
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