I'm an introverted quiet guy that took a liking to this girl who liked to go to bars and parties. I liked her enough to eventually ask her out on a date. She went with me, but it got no further than that. Eventually, she settled back to her routine of going to bars and parties with friends.
I got over it; but the next time I saw her, several months later, I felt embarrassed for liking her so much and asking her out. I feel like a fool for thinking that it could work. But when I saw her, it all hit me: of course she wouldn't go out with someone like me because I'm not like her---I don't party and go to bars and all that. And thinking that made me feel even more embarrassed, especially seeing her interact with the more outgoing/bar/partier guys in the group.
I was just---I don't know how I could have thought there was a potential for a serious, long-term relationship. I felt so naive and like a fool.
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Don't feel embarrassed or like a fool. You did what a lot of guys wouldn't have done. You actually asked her out! That's very cool.
If you want to try again, hold your head up high and ask her out again. But, if you're not willing to be more of a party guy, and she wants to continue being a party girl, you're going to run into a lot of problems.
It may be smarter to chalk this up to experience and look for someone that is more interested in the things that you enjoy. It'll be easier in the long run, believe me.0