ok so I got out of a pretty long "fling" I guess you can call it that since we were not official but we did act like we were together and it was a exclusive relashionship but that ended not so good (he ditched me for his ex girlfriend), this happened about 2 months ago and I'm still pretty bitter about the whole thing. I was really hurt but I've slowly gotten over it. so the thing is I'm trying to move on and find someone else. since that happened iv talkedd to guys and kissed other guys but every time I do that I unconciously compare him to the other guy and it ruins everything and it makes me miss the other guy more and makes me feel pretty depressed. another problem is that every guy that I find attractive or w/e seems to be talking to someone or with someone. its like there are no single guys around.
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well then, get over the first guy. lol it's nor fair to the other guys taht you're comparing them to him. It just shwos that you still think of him and have feelings for him. Get over him, and then put yourself back on the market.
When you're looking for guys, its better to start off just being friends. This way you don't run into the problem of wanting them and then finding out they're taken. (it helps not to pick a guy based off on looks, just choose the ones that are nice, single, and then look at if they're cute or not.) Don't get into the mentality of choosing a guy based on how they look. That's just a recipe for disaster. I would just become friends with guys and then as your relationship develops, choose the ones you click with more. At that point you can look at their looks, AFTER you're friends with them. :)0