I don't want to be another lonely whining guy on here. This website is full of them.
However just a few weeks ago I went on a mountain hike with my little sister who has been dating a guy for 2 years. Being the homecoming queen she has never had trouble finding a boyfriend. The only thing she has to put up with me is my cracking some skulls of guys I don't like who tried dating her...haha.
However she brought up the painful question "why don't you have a girlfriend" and "you should be feeling lonely". She meant well but she was rubbing salt in the wound. I'm close to 30 and I've only been in 2 semi serious relationships. I'm had a fair share of women in bed, but nobody I could bring home to the folks.
It's extremely embarrassing...and yes I want a serious girlfriend. I actually AVOID talking to relatives to avoid hearing this question. I worry people think there is something wrong with me. I'm a heterosexual normal guy. .
I feel like I have the attitude "I need a girlfriend" it will come off as needy/lonely only making things look worse.
Here is the thing. Do you women realize how much more difficult it is for a decent looking single guy to find a serious girl than the other way around? You women like guys who are already in the relationship (which is SO ass backward).
There is nothing wrong with me. But I feel like if I "appear to be looking for a gf" it will make me LESS likely to be able to score a decent girl. I HATE this double standard. It is, what it is though.
I just want to know one thing. Do you girls realize this? Can you understand what is like for a single guy? It's not the same situation as a single women looking for boyfriend. Can you understand that?
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I'm about your age and I can tell you this... don't let other people get to you. There are so many single people out there and there are many miserable people in relationships!
Just play the field, go out and when someone comes along you find more interesting than the others, make the appropriate gestures that you want to be serious with her. I'm not into online dating so I try to go to singles events in my area. Its a good way to meet women and its also good to sharpen your conversation skills.
As for your sister. She sounds like the type who has had everything go her way her entire life. Big brother to protect her, guys always asking her out, etc. I would tell her what I tell other people who ask me why I'm single - "I haven't met the right one and I won't settle for anything less."2
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