1. Would friends be a main characteristic in choosing a guy ?
2. Would you base your assumptions about the guy on his friends or on his personality ?
3. Do you care more about the guy or about his circle of friends
Please be honest
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A guy should have friends, I am not going to date an insular guy. We also learn a lot about you from the type of friends you have (I'm not talking about asking your friends for information about you directly, lol!).
A guy needs a best buddy or two - who will be there for him through thick and thin, and he will do the same for his friends. A guy also needs a set of good friends for socialising and having fun with and living life to the full. And a guy needs a wider circle of friends to enrich his life - and this should have no barriers on age, gender, etc, like a mentoring type role. He can be both mentor and "mentee" (if such a word exists!).
However all the above are ideals perhaps and in reality it doesn't always work out like that. At any rate, I would never let his friends dictate how I choose a guy and my choice would always be led by the personality of the guy - though as I said above, we can tell a lot by the company you keep!
So to answer your questions:
2: Personality, and
3: Absolutely and only the guy. However, the younger you are, the more important that the circle of friends is. Once you go past a certain age you stop caring (unless they are there all the time when we want to you to ourselves, lol!)
BTW, if you are totally different from your friends then more credit to you. If anyone thinks that you should be the the same as others just because you've chosen them as your friends, that is one very shallow attitude. How boring to be the same as others, who wants to be same-same when original is so much better? We love that you can keep friendships with different types of people and remain yourself. That is pretty special.
[ohh, sorry it's such a long answer!]