Are girls afraid to date a guy who doesn't need them? Is it a control thing?
Are girls afraid to date a guy who doesn't need them?
What Girls Said 13
Nah, because trust me, every guy needs a girl. Just like every girl needs a guy. No matter how independant you are, you are not going to be able to hug youself when you're down or cuddle yourself in bed when you're cold and lonely.5
Well just like love.. you need another person in your life, admit it or not its what you need.
I'm not gonna like.. your question confused the living hell out of me, but if you mean girls don't want guys that don't want them back. Yes, and no.
Why would I want a guy that not only thought nothing of me, but said he didn't need me?
I think I'm going with the guy that says my life would be NOTHING without him. because then do I not only feel wanted.. I AM wanted.0
No but they at least want to feel wanted I mean no one wants to be in a relationship where the other person doesn't want them. I mean I don't want a guy crying the second I leave and jumping with joy when I enter a room but I do want to be wanted. When I haven't seen them all weekend a nice kiss and "i missed you" will always make me smile.1
Most of us don't want to be with someone that seems to have no need for us. It's not a control thing, it's an affirmation thing. If they couldn't really care less if we're around, then why stick around?0
Needy guys are predictable, I like to be surprised. Guys that are needy are generally too emotional. Honestly, I have no problem boosting a man's ego, but if he is constantly needing me to enable him, I will enable him to be history.
You can control needy guys, but they suck the life out of you. I would much rather have a guy who chooses me over everyone else than a guy who needs me. Chances are if a guy needs you he probably need two or three other girls as well.0
I would say that some girls also want (reasonable) distance and need time on our own, what we don't appreciate is when a guy disappears for an unreasonable time.
Put yourself in our shoes, if you had been dating a girl for quite some time and all of a sudden she just dissapears wouldn't it be natural to at least wonder what happened to her? and why she just stopped existing?, would you even consider IMing her?0
All women love to feel needed. May I suggest an article I wrote earlier? It's called the Art of Being a Woman, and it talks a little bit about what you're asking. Hope it helps.0
As a woman in her late twenties - I must say I would never date a man that needed me. You should never need anyone in your life, you should simply want them there.
I'm a firm believer that you must first be self sufficient and independent before embarking on developing potential long term relationships with others. - Do I want to feel appreciated and wanted, of course - who wouldn't? But needed, definitely not.
If a man were to relay to me that he "needed" me in his life, I would interpret this to mean that he has some sort of instability in his life that which I do not want to be a part of.
I like an independent man - its a good quality to have.
Here's what I always say to my boyfriends, "I don't need you I want you" there's a big difference. I'd rather a guy not be needy because when you're with someone needed you tend to become one person. (You know where people say both your names like one big one like jessicaandjosh or something. ) Keeping your individual identities is the most important thing to me as I'm sure it is to other women. Being an individual doesn't mean ignoring the girl, it just means giving her space.0
Well, afraid isn't the right word.. We're not AFRAID, but what girl wants to feel unwanted? Most girls tend to have low self-esteem, and most of us still strive towards that fairytale romance you see on the big screens. We don't want a jerk who treats us like we're as disposable as used napkins. You don't have to be clingy, but if you want your girl to stick around, try showing a little more appreciation for your lady.0
I wouldn't date a guy that didn't need me because then what would be the point in dating you I like to feel special and having a boyfriend that didn't need me would do the apposite1
What Guys Said 6
No, definitely not. But what girls (people) don't like is if someone is emotionally distant, particularly in that boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that should be one of the closest relationships you have (if not the closest). A girl absolutely wants to feel needed, liked, and admired in a relationship. If she feels like an afterthought or accessory then she'll be looking to leave. On the other hand if you come across as strong and independent, but involved and caring, she'll respond to that.
It's not a control thing; it's a feeling.5
Are you serious?
Everyone wants to feel wanted!
Its not control, but they do want to feel needed.
A Loving Black Man2
They want a guy who doesn't need them, this only pisses them off and annoys them to a point of where they don't talk to you anymore if your needy, the key is to make them want to need you, how do you do that by not being available all the time.0
Nope. The way I see it, they actually want a guy who doesn't need them. In some cases, and I know this from experience, they will actually dislike a guy who needs them, They prefer someone who doesn't even want them at first, because that makes them feel like they've won something and the guy is their trophy0
I feel I'm the same I've had girlfriends really lovely girls. Yet I've never felt I needed a girlfriend its nice but I feel I could live without. My current girlfriend is long distance but I don't mind cos I enjoy hearing from her but my life is good as it is. There's always something to occupy the mind.0
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