So, I'm recently divorced & met this guy through an online dating service. We have a lot in common. Both are divorced, had cheating spouses, each have 2 young boys, we both like to have a lot of fun, and we are both pretty attractive. We had a great 1st date..lots of chemistry, kissing, and laughing hysterically. We got together 2 nights later in a more casual setting. We did fool around some but did not have sex.
We have been texting a little here and there, but I always feel like I initiate it. He will say.. "I will definitely see you soon", and is forever saying to me in person and when we text "you are so hot", "your body is amazing", "you smell good" blah, blah, blah. The only thing is that I am not sure why he doesn't initiate contact with me. He is younger. He is 30 and I am 40. I look like I am 25 and he says the age thing doesn't bother him. I'm wondering if he is just not really interested or if it has more to do with the fact that his divorce is somewhat new and he is still sowing his wild oats.. he married very young.. 22 I think .. and I wonder if he is just scarred still and reliving his youth. I get the sense that he enjoys online dating for the craziness of it all. We seem like a great fit, but I don't want to hold out hope. I am dating other guys but keep thinking about him. Kind of like when you keep going back to the 1st wedding dress you tried on.. haha.. funny example. Anyway, just looking for feedback and thoughts... Oh and I have only known him just under 2 weeks.. so it is very new... I just don't know how long to wait to see if he is interested. And at what point I should get the picture.
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Sounds like you're having fun, which is AWESOME!
Since it's just two weeks you need to slow down your contact and do your best to act less needy (incase you are that is.)
If he's not initiating enough perhaps it's because you're not giving him enough space to. Are you giving him 5 days? Or just 2 hours?
Give him the gift of missing you ( two days minimum ) and he'll text you. Otherwise you're training him to think you'll always initiate and that he doesn't need to.
And yes, two weeks short. Dating casually means you're dating without any commitments. Maybe you chat everyday (hopefully not) and maybe you chat once a week. It's casual. You might be dating other guys, he might be dating other girls. Who cares.
Once you past the sex stage you might want to establish some guidelines, the next day. Something like, ""Hey, I know we've just started dating, but I can't be having sex with you if you're still open to having sex with other girls... I'm a one-at-a-time girl. So let's establish some friendly rules. :)"
Good luck little lady!
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