I am a black American girl and I have only dated black men. I have been attracted to other races, but have never acted on it. I was raised in the South and I don't think my family would be very happy if I dated outside of my race, especially if they were white. They wouldn't disown me or anything like that and their opinion is not that important as long as I find someone I am happy with.
I have always been told that they just want to sleep with a black woman but will not take them seriously. I am a little sheltered so is that true? [no offense]
This wouldn't really be an issue if I lived in NYC somewhere, but where I live a lot of people are racist. I see a lot of black men dating white women, but not as much white men dating black women. I figure I might as well since I have turned down many cute ones, maybe I shouldn't limit myself. So what do you think I should do? Should I start being more open minded or just stick to my race?
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Look, if you get the idea that a white guy is just with you because he wants to f*** a black girl, you should probably run. Otherwise, I think it's totally okay.
I know one couple like that, and her parents did have a big problem with it at first. They were old enough that their grandparents were slaves. I don't know this for sure, but I suspect it bothered them because there was a long history of white men forcing the captive black women to have sex. I understand that. It's bad enough that black people were enslaved, but for the women to also have been forced into sexual slavery makes it even worse. And I understand if seeing their daughter with a white man just brought to mind images of their ancestors being forced to serve the white man any way he saw fit. But he's a really great guy who loves their daughter more than anything (he's my boss, I should know), and in time they grew to accept him. It was the natural thing to do. She loves him, and I don't know if I've ever known a man who was more crazy about a woman I think that racial ideas sometimes prevent us from seeing people as individuals, but that most people can overcome this. At least that's what I hope. It was really nice to watch my boss and his wife come together, and I don't want it to be an anomaly.0