i like this guy and he told me he doesn't like dating anyone who lives close to him because he needs his "alone time". he's always dated people from different schools so I don't think he's lying. I just would like to know other guys opinions on this. thanks
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In this case of your introverted crush, you can get the best of both worlds for you two. All it will take is a little understanding from both sides. Firstly, you must understand that he gets his energy back, he's comfortable, and he enjoys his alone time. That is what defines an introvert. Socializing to him is too much like work. It's something that he's not good at and doesn't enjoy a whole lot. So that is why he prefers to be by himself more than being around others, and that is how he likes it. There is nothing wrong with him.
But he must also understand that if he does want a relationship with you, that he's going to have to spend some time with you every once in a while. For him to do this, he'll need to gradually warm up to you and feel comfortable being around you. That's the kicker to us introverts: We seem extremely outgoing when we are with those that we are comfortable around. We will even choose to be around that kind of socializing more often than usual. And that is what he needs to make you if he is to be comfortable, he needs to become really close to you.
One thing to note about all of this is that you can't force feelings and you can't date while you get to know him. He won't just agree to be in a relationship without first deciding it through to himself, weighing all the pros and cons. So if it turns out that he's really not that into you, he'll most likely know that before he even gets into a relationship. Just take it slow with him and don't make any sudden movements. I assume you are more extroverted? If that's the case, then socializing can be found many places for you so there's no need to force it with him. Be patient and let him take you on his own terms.0