If a guy asks me out, anywhere... do I assume he is going to pay? Do we agree before we go or do I take cash with me just in case? I am nervous of this because I have noticed that guys don't like to pay anymore - the dating game is expensive and there are no guarantees that you like her, see her again or whatever. And what about guy friends? Do girls expect the guys to pay? Do guys feel the pressure that they will have to pay for people (girls)?
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I think that if someone asks you out and they choose the location it's a pretty safe bet that they're going to pay. Bring enough money to cover your own tab just in case, but if you end up having to actually dip into that money then you have every right to not go on a second date with the guy.
Personally, when I ask someone out on a date, I cover their bill for the logical reason that I don't know what their budget will allow for. When I choose a place I'm doing it knowing that I can afford it, but I can't say the same for them. Logically, for that same reason, if the girl asked me out and picked the location I would expect her to pay due to that same uncertainty.
Do I feel any pressure to pay? No. It's not a pressure thing. It's a logic thing for the reason I mentioned above.
That being said, in a perfect world, going dutch would be the way to go. And if a girl absolutely INSISTED on paying for her end of the tab, I wouldn't argue with her about it and I would think she was a keeper. It's definitely a way of giving yourself "bonus points" in the guy's eyes because it's on the small list of things you can do right off the bat to show that you deserve to be respected and treated as an equal.
As friends, everyone generally pays their own way but if one person can't cover their end and I can afford to I have no problems with paying for them. I've done it before and what's a few bucks between friends?2