Guys if you liked a girl and went on a date/spent your birthday with her how often would you call/text her? This guy who I am 95% sure likes me got my number off of Facebook and texted me out of no where one day (I was very shocked) wanting to know if I would keep him company on his birthday, so we spent the entire day together and getting to know each other, talking, etc. The thing is, he works in another town (about 45 mins.-1 hour away from me) and is in law enforcement, so he has crazy hours, but he still hung out with his buddies this past weekend and calls/drinks with his friends. He said he woulc call me when the night ended. The thing is, about a week after the date, he sent me a text just saying he was fishing and was thinking about me, but he has only called me either to call me back and once to get directions to where I was since I called and said I was near his town and to come visit me, even though he got a call and couldn't come. I haven't heard from him in like 5 days. I just feel like I did all the calling, and since he is in a bad location my texts won't go through to him. So my question is guys, if you like a girl and went on a date with her, would you call her every day, every week, or what? Or would you text her? I feel like if he called me everyday then he might think he was in the friends/hanging-out category, since our conversations would consist of "what did you do today" blah blah blah and I am pretty sure he is more interested in me than that, so I don't know if he is playing safe and taking it slow or what, since this was the first date/first time we hung out alone. Then I started wondering if he doesn't know about how I feel for him.I mean I did spend the entire day/birthday with him and said I had fun and we would definitely have to do it again, hugged him, texted him, call him, but you know how clueless guys can be. So here are my questions:
1. Do you guys think he has an idea that I like him or do I need to be more obvious?
2. How often to you guys call a girl you like/interested in after a date?
3. Should I contact him more/initiate things more and if so how? (I don't want to get annoying with calling him and my texts won't go through.Facebook maybe?)
4. Why isn't he calling me more often but can hangout with/call his friends? Is it because he doesn't want to rush things or he doesn't want to be looked as as a friend to hang out with?
I don't know if I am jumping way ahead or what.I mean I know we only hung out once, but I am pretty sure he likes me along with everyone else.and like tonight he gets on Facebook at the same time as me, but then he doesn't chat with me (I didn't i.m. him just to see if he would me, but he didn't)
Any help would be appreciated!
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Well, If I were you I probably would have waited for him to call you. I mean you did put yourself out there by hugging him, texting him and calling him. One thing for sure he does know you like him and no you don't have to be more obvious. For example I personally don't like when girls get a hold of me after a first date, especially if I am really busy. I would not make her wait a week though, I will call in a couple of days but I mean it all depends on what my schedule is like. I am not going to sacrifice all my plans and work just to see her.you did say he had a crazy schedule. And if he says he is thinking about you then he is into you, he just could not find time for you. Don't take it personal, he'll come around. Don't be too clingy, otherwise he is going to think you are nuts. Stop calling/texting him like I said he'll come around. He knows you like him and you know he is interested in you. When he is free he will give you his full attention.0