I do have confidence. I'm smart, funny, athletic, in shape, and generally have a good head on my shoulders.
But it seems like the past few girls I've tried to date didn't appreciate who I am. I was raised to care about other people and be good to them, but girls my age tend to shy away from this type of guy.
Seems like the more I take an interest in a girl and get to know her, the less chance I have. While the guy who only cares about sex and is selfish is successful. Why is this whole world backwards?
I can't be the "bad boy". I don't want it to be that way, but girls these days make me want to change my ways.
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Here's how I see it... You're too focused on being a "NICE GUY" instead of just being a "GOOD GUY."
The nice guy is giving his girlfriend all of his attention. Either because he's worshiping her in some way, or because he's got so little going on his life that he's decided she needs to have all of his attention. This will push most girls away simply because it's not attractive. It's needy and gross.
The good guy is different. He likes women but he doesn't worship them. He gives his girl his attention when she needs it, but he also has a life that takes up the rest of his attention. He has friends and family that take up his time. He has hobbies and a career direction and studies, etc. So when she DOES get his attention is actually means something to her. She appreciates it instead of feeling smothered.
The nice guy will smother her in compliments. This makes him seem insincere and dishonest. Almost like he's trying to buy her approval.
The good guy will give sincere compliments, but only once in a while, when it really occurs to him. He's NOT giving compliments to win her favor, he's just speaking his mind.
And finally, don't judge all women based on the "few girls" you've dated. That's a very poor sample size. Don't start making generalizations until you've hit the 100 mark, and by then you should be able to tell which types of women you respond best to, and which ones you should avoid.
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