I have been talking to this girl that I like that lives in the same apt complex as me. Our main form of communication is texting and sometimes on facebook too. In the very beginning we used to never talk but now we talk pretty much everyday. There are days that I text her first and days that she texts me first. And most of the time I hold out til she texts me to see if there is some sort of interest she has in me, and she does text me for 90% of the time I don't text first lol But here is the thing...
When I ask if she wants to come along with me to grab something to eat , she always gives me an excuse. For example, to lazy to get up outta bed, she can't leave the place for numerous reasons etc. And I have only hung out with her about 4 -5 times in person. Two of those times she was buzzed. Also when she is down and out about whatever, I ask her if she wants to talk about it. Because I really do care for this girl. but its seems likes she doesn't, but I have a feeling she does but she is too shy. So I don't know where this is going. There are times where I feel its pointless to even try anymore.
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It sounds like maybe she is not that interested in anything more than a friendship.( I think those type of excuses like "I can't get out of bed" or "i gotta wash my hair" works in some friendships whereas the friend can just laugh it off as," whatever.So and so is just being lazy today." But when you are trying for something MORE, these lame excuses to me,would come off as someone not being interested in being more than friends.Why?Because they are not making time for me,or for the two of us to develop. You mentioned that she may be shy. That's probable I guess,but you said you hung out with her 4 or 5 times already...that doesn't sound shy to me.:( All in all,if you want to still talk to her,then do but as a friend...platonically. I think you may be disappointed otherwise. It sounds like she is giving you an answer to you "wanting something more" without her really having to say it.0