is it normal to get jealous when my boyfriend hangs out with girl friends? I hate when he does. Like I feel like he'll cheat on me, or something might happen. Even though he's told me a hundred times I'm number one to him, and he'd choose me over them. What can I do to not let it bother me? I seriously hate him hanging out with other girls/
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Too many people are trying to pursue these opposite sex friendships and I don't get it. I see so many posts on here where people are only using it to get close to someone they would love to have sex with or a relationship with. There was a day not too long ago when opposite sex friendships were highly unlikely, at least when you were in a relationship. I cannot imagine any boyfriend of mine saying "cool" if I told him I was going to hang out with all my male friends. He would have thought something was up for sure.
So, this is not about your guy fooling around on you. From what you say, I doubt he is. However, this is about emotional intimacy and the fact that he has multiple girls in his life that he has an emotional relationship with. That is what opposite sex friendships are about. When guys hang out with guys, there is little to no emotional intimacy. There is guy code. You talk about 4 or 5 different acceptable subjects and that is it. When guys hang out with girls, it is about being able to share feelings and concerns in the long run. I don't blame you for being uncomfortable. Maybe he isn't ready for a full commitment to you. I would talk to him about it. I don't think couples should try and be their everything, and you both should spend time with friends, but I would not be comfortable with a boyfriend hanging with several other girls. It would be a deal breaker for me.0