My friend likes to go through her boyfriends email, phone, you name it--she looks through it from time to time (I don't promote this sort of behavior by the way, I think it's a serious invasion of privacy and have told her repeatedly that if she goes looking, eventually she'll see something she doesn't like that's really nothing and flip out of it).
Recently she thought she'd check her boyfriend's email, well, turns out he signed up for an online dating service not even a week ago (something he's done before mind you, his excuse "Oh I had that loooong before I met you"). I get the call about "what should I do" and personally, I think she should confront him because to me, THAT'S A HUGE RED FLAG.
He hadn't sent any messages to anyone or posted a picture, but he had several women "wink" at him on said site. My buddy dropped it after talking to a friend of hers who told her there was no sense in "causing drama" when there was none but to "keep checking the profile".
Me, being the friend I am, thinks that he's using this site to pick up women and frankly, I want to catch him doing it (but that's another story) so that she can get away from this asshole (they have waaaaaay more issues than online dating profiles) for GOOD.
His profile says he's looking for a 18-22 year old, widowed or newly single.
Am I being paranoid or do you think I'm right?
- You're not remotely paranoid about this, chances are you're probably right.Vote A
- You shouldn't worry about this, chances are the guy is just using it to stroke his ego.Vote B
- Neither of the above, my answer is posted.Vote C
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there both in the wrong , she shouldn't be going through his email and he shouldn't be signing up for dating sites . its makes little sense as to why he's sign up for the dating site if he had a girlfriend . it could be cause he feels its a way to meet girls as ones in real life know he has a girlfriend , so online ones don't know and could be seen by him as options . I do think its a red flag to be totally honest , but her searching through his stuff is one too and a sign she doesn't trust him and thinks he's up to know good .
is it time to end this relationship , more than likely less , get it over with now before it gets worse0