these days, dating is just like marriage.
It use to be marriage meant then you have sex, you live together, and you share the finance.
nowadays People are dating and are already having sex, living together, and sharing the finance.
I asked my guy how he loved me more than his ex of 3 years and he said it was because he married me. But then he lived with her, had sex with her and shared his finance with her. the only difference with me... is a piece of paper? the only reason he didn't marry her was because she left him for another guy.
so what is the difference? Because I see none.
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It never meant "then you have sex." That myth was asserted as truth more strongly in the past than it is today, and people were more discrete about it, but it's never been true. Same with monogamy. The appearance was upheld more strongly in the past, but the reality never matched the myth. It's very naive to believe that people didn't have pre-marital and extra-marital sex in any period in the past.
Marriage makes you legal partners in the business of life. It's some degree of commitment to stick around when things get tough, and to make the welfare of the relationship a priority. And it forces you to take time to cool off before ending the relationship, whereas someone living together can walk out the door today with no strings attached.
That said, marriage is certainly no magic bullet or guarantee of a lifelong relationship. About 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce or annulment.
I suppose one way to look at it is this: if someone wants to live with you, they're committing to the present. If someone wants to marry you, they're making at least a token commitment to the future. It's a greater expression of hope.