So there's this girl I really like that's really nice, kind, and genuine. The only problem I have is she's made fun of by a lot of people. My friends say dating her is like social suicide. How can I tell her we should keep our relationship a secret? Any advice on this is greatly appreciated! Thanks so much!
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Telling her that will kill her. period. I think you need to ask yourself how much does that social acceptance matter to you? It's been in my experience when I couldn't care less about the opinions of others and treated them with the sardonic wry tone and indifference they deserved, that not only did I notice the foolishness less but my relationship eventually lost it's novelty and people moved on.
I also found that without the views of others constantly tainting, contaminating my relationship and my view of the person I was in a relationship with; I was fully able to enjoy that relationship. Every facet of it and they are still memories I hold dear.
At the end of the day, you have to decide if you like her enough to brave the storm. Either you do or you don't and you leave her alone. You wanting to hide a relationship with her from the public will just crush her self-esteem; one of the most important things for me in a relationship was knowing the person I was with was proud to have me on their arm and mark me as their territory. If you can't give her that, I'm not saying it's your fault, but it's probably best to leave her alone. Besides, these things always get out and even though you might suffer some discomfort, the brunt of the mockery and the cruelty will be hers.0