I met a guy, he is perfectly nice, and has a lot of qualities I am into. Many of which my ex was lacking, and make me think this guy is a lot better for me than my ex. However, I was in a relationship with my ex for 2 and a half years, and I am not sure I am quite over him yet. Also, I lived with my ex, and when we broke up, I was forced to move back home. On the first date with this new guy he asked me what my living situation used to be, and I was unable to answer the question since it would lead to talking about my ex. I don't think it is fair to this guy to not know that part of my life as it was so important, I really don't know what to do. Do I tell him, do I wait, mostly I planned on telling him we should take things slow? HELP!
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I take it you guys just met...theres no need to go into details. Just say "Oh it was a bad roommated situation. Ill go into details some other day (smile and laugh no need to make it awkward or put on a dramatic face)". Simple. Life doesn't have to be that complicated if you don't want it to be. Once you get more comfortable with prince charming you can go into details. In regards to the ex, if it was a toxic relationship, healing is best before you move on. Don't take old baggage into your new relationship. If you feel like your new guys is beginnign to like you a bit more than you like him pump the breaks if your not ready for such seriousness. Tell him you got out of a long term relationship and as much as your looking forward to get to know him you really want to take it slow. Keep your dates carefree, fun and casual. I'm sure if he cares about you he won't mind. But be careful to not lead him on...Its the worst when someone makes you believe they acutally cared and next thing you know...poof! their gone. good luck!0