Trying Dating Again After Fight With Depression?

Hello. I'm just now getting over a depression problem I had for several years I've been working for about year to get better and feel better. Dating was always a big problem for me and guess I just wanted a girlfriend so bad because it seemed like most people I knew had at least one girlfriend by the time they graduated high school. I didn't get my first date until a few months after graduating and she turned out to be an abusive girl who always yelled and screamed at me and towards the end she hit me. After we broke up I started getting depression help.

So my question is, does anyone have advice on how to go about dating and finding a girlfriend for someone who hasn't had much success? I've been doing the whole make myself better and focus on me for about a year and I don't know what to do next.


Most Helpful Girl

  • Well I'm happy to hear that you're getting/got help for depression. It's never easy. I have Bipolar myself. It's great that you took time apart for yourself, that's what I also did, and then it was game time. Firstly you should go out. I'm not sure if you're working, but if you're not get work somewhere really busy where there's lots of girls. Join a gym? Get a hobby so that you can go somewhere that has to do with your hobby or just take a class in something totally random. Maybe even tell your friends that you're ready to start dating and ask them to help. It's nothing to be ashamed of. That's what your friends are for anyway right? Grab a few friends and even go to a club or concert. Even if it's something you don't really like doing, it's all about finding a girl right? The more you go out,the more people. Your last good resort will always be online dating but that should be the last resort!


What Girls Said 2

  • Right off the bat...CONFIDENCE IS KEY...Girls like guys who are confident in themselves...but not too confident that they become jerks...mAYBE A wardrobe make over will do...but not such a drastic one...i mean like if u're a tee shirt and jeans guy don't go out and buy you a new wardrobe full of jackets and ties...just be more creative and positive...keep yourself well groomed and stuff...and just do it for yourself don't do it with the main purpose of getting a it to boost your confidence...and also go out see the world and have fun.:D


What Guys Said 2

  • Sounds a lot like me... I also tried to make myself better in every aspect. Next step is to meet new girls, generally I meet girls through friends and if I'm lucky enough facebook. I'd say keep yourself open minded about the whole thing, and be patient. After you get a date or to things seem to pick up.

  • I would avoid high-pressure scenes, like clubs. Join a club/team/cause/organization that you feel strongly about. Meeting someone who shares a passion or interest is a great way to ease into dating.