just going for the kiss or asking if i can kiss you?
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It sort of depends on the situation. If it's a random stranger where sex is the main focus and there's no emotional involvement or anything, then yeah you should ask first to avoid a smack to the face or a kick in the groin.
But if you're going to kiss someone that you're dating, or are close to and want to take it a step further, then don't ask. To me that just kills the mood. It also makes you seem less confident which can be a turn-off. Just find a good moment, make sure you're getting the vibe that she's into it too, and go for it. Good timing is key to a great, romantic kiss.2