Mmkay. So I'm trying to decide between these two guys and it's really difficult.
The first guy is this guy in my grade, and he's told me he's liked me since last summer. I've always been really close with him because we kind of grew up together and we're neighbors. We always flirt and he's amazingly sweet to me. He even got me this gorgeous necklace for Christmas which I simply adore. Last friday, he was seriously considering asking me out. Practically everyone knew except for me. He had asked so many people their opinions and stressed about it. He had told a bunch of people that he loves me. Eventually, my best friend talked him out of it and he didn't ask me out.
And there's guy number two, let's call him Dylan. I've really liked him for about two years now. He is absolutely perfect. <3 I met him through a friend and we've been pretty close ever since. He always recommends we "hang out" more often and does every little thing to be closer to me. He remembers my favorite drink, preferred candy, and everything else. He also has this weird quirk where he finds every imperfection of you and then touches or strokes it. Things llike scars and quirks you didn't know you had. He's amazing and great and everything. The only problem is he won't admit he likes me. My friend asked him and he just said "it's complicated". I think he's still getting over a messed up ex-girlfriend and that's why he won't say anything.
Any opinions, suggestions, comments? Thanks! (:
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Wow, it sounds complicated. Either decision may result in the loss of a close friend, so this is a something only you can decide.
From your post I can tell you are attached to both of them; however, I can also tell that you like Dylan more, and are probably only returning the first guy's affection because he's so into you (or because you're polite and you're good friends). I know it sounds harsh of me to say this, but Dylan is the only one you actually compliment directly. You say that the first guy is "amazingly sweet to [you]," but go on for a bit about Dylan's skills directly, etc. (Okay, I think I officially just rambled.)
But that's just an evaluation of your word choice, which is just that: nothing more, nothing less. It might peer into the depths of your psyche, maybe not. This is a choice between what you have and what you would like to have. The first guy loves you, but you love (or at least really like) Dylan.
Don't rush it; the one you are meant to have will come to you eventually.0