I'm just getting really frustrated and depressed. As some of you may know, my ex and I broke up and I'm having a hard time with it. So, I went back on the dating site where I met him hoping to find the same luck (we met in a week).
Well, its been 3 weeks and no luck. all the guys I'm interested in aren't in me and I'm starting to think its because I have a child (most of them do not). My ex had a son, but never saw him. So, he was free to do what he wanted. Yet, he accepted my daughter and it didn't seem to bother him in the slightest. After a while, she would even come with me on the weekends and we would stay at his place. We were like a family.
I'm starting to think I got EXTREMELY lucky finding him (which of course makes me super depressed that I lost him). I'm going to need to find a guy that is willing to do a lot of things with my daughter. She is 8, so she can do a lot of things (like rollercoasters, bowling, mini golf, movies etc.).
This, I believe, is a tall order. Most guys I'm meeting do not have children, or at the very least have free time. I have my daughter 24/7 (father hasn't been around in 6 yrs). My mom watches her a lot for me to go do things, but its not like I have every other weekend to myself like most single mothers do.
Am I asking to much of someone to be wtih me, and accept I have a daughter and to change the way they normally do things (such as more things involving a child). Will I ever find someone that will be like my ex and accept the situation?
She is my world. I love her to death and she is such an awesome kid that it hurts to think men are rejecting me because of her. what do you all think? guys especially? thanks
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There are guys out there willing to date you regardless of you having a child. Me? I dunno. I'd feel weird in the dad role and dating you would ultimately end up being that :P But, if I really was interested in you because of your personality or whatever, I'd just suck it up and get over it. It wouldn't be that big of a deal to me.
And ya, trying to date a mother really is a pain, especially if the child is young. They need to be around their child a lot (it's good for the child's growth). This is why people really need to take things slow (not saying you didn't) when it comes to sex. Cause if you get pregnant (or get someone pregnant) you've pretty much going to HAVE to either abort, put up for adoption, or basically sacrifice everything and be with them as much as possible if you want to raise a good child. If you don't you're going to raise a bad one and show how terrible you are (You don't sound terrible at all). But ya, it might not be they're not immature about a child, just they've realized how difficult it is to really form a strong relationship with someone who has a child since the child always will make plans unstable.
It's great you love your daughter though :) sounds like you're a good mom. Just keep at it, 3 weeks isn't that long. Keep at it, I'm sure you'll find someone. Don't give up, keep trying. You'll find the guy right for you who isn't going to let anything keep you from being with you. Then the relationship will be great. Pity the father left... you ever try getting legal action against him btw? I mean, get him to pay child support at least?1