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Initial attraction: Looks
Secondary attraction: Approachability
Ultimate attraction: Personality
- Initially we will scour the room looking at different women, when we spot one that is "presumably" attractive for our tastes, we start considering approaching that women. The reason we look for a hot woman to approach is several purposes: 1) Health 2) If we are going to risk rejection it will be with someone who is worth it. 3) Seeing as you cannot visually express personality accurately (across the room) then looks are really what we have to go by.
- After spotting this woman, we check body language to see if she is approachable.. Is she smiling and greeting everyone around her? Or is she giving that "f*** off" vibe to every guy in the room? A smile can go a long ways; this helps us overcome any initial fears we may have of her declining our approach.
- After approaching the woman, we start the conversation and if she has the personality we look for in a potential lover then we will continue talking; otherwise this process screeches to a halt and we categorize her as either A) Friend B) Acquaintance C) etc and so forth..
After this "initial dance", we will have enough information to determine if she is someone we should go after and try to date, or if she is someone we should walk away from. Atleast, this is the process I've realized within myself of how I go about finding a potential mate.