I dated X for two years, until I moved abroad for a year, which broke both of our hearts. When I came back, X was embittered by the fact that I had casually dated while abroad, though X and I had broken up. I was still very much in love with X, and he with me, and so we started sleeping together and acting like we were in a relationship, although I was more a dirty mistress than anything else. This went on for over a year, with him stringing me along, manipulating me, and being somewhat emotionally abusive. But when it was good... It was veeeery good, and we loved one another completely. Truth be told, X is a very gentle soul, and his manipulation stemmed entirely from his unresolved anger at what he saw as my "betrayal".
A few months ago, about a month after X told me that he wanted to get back together and then changed his mind the next goddamned day, I met Y, who is intelligent, veeeery good looking, extraordinarily talented, is sweet and would never hold anything over me. We share all of the same values, and get along great, but I can't stop thinking about X. I like Y, and I know that Y is good for me, whereas X is poison, but X was my first love, and, although I know he doesn't want me back now that I'm with Y... I can't help but hope that X and I will have a future together (he once asked me to marry him!). I just need some objective commentary on the situation, as it has become far too convoluted for me to figure out at this point. Thank you so much!
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Those are very interesting names. Is your name Z? :)
I would go with the non-toxic relationship. Yes you love Mr. X but just because he was your first love doesn't mean you're bound to him forever. Give Mr. Y some more time and then make your decision.0