We've really seemed to click.. I've only been talking to him for a month...but he suggested I move in with him. We haven't met yet. And, he won't date me (he lives far away..he hates long distance) unless I'm there.. I asked him if he would still want me to live with him if he didn't find me attractive in person..and he said it would be fine with him.. He only has a one bedroom apartment, and I said, "you probably wouldn't want me to sleep in your bed with you if you thought I was ugly, would you? lol" He said it would be fine..he just wouldn't "sleep" with me. He wants me to make my mind up tomorrow so he can order my ticket and mail it to me... If I don't live there...he doesn't even want to continue being friends because "I can't be friends with someone that I like as more than a friend.." I know this sounds stupid..and you're probably thinking "this is common sense, bitch!"...buuuut...what if this could be a good thing? I mean...carpe diem..right?
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Carpe diem? Eh... not necessarily. You've known each other for a month, only through talking online, and you haven't met yet. As harsh as it seems, I think you're better off leaving this one go, honestly.
The entire point of going out on dates and being together and hanging out together in the first place, without even the label of boyfriend and girlfriend, is to get to know the other person more intimately and personally. Online relationships are a lot more difficult to deal with because they lack all the personal, face-to-face contact. I've been in your shoes (sorta) before. And I did go to visit her after talking for about 3 or 4 months, but that's all it was, a visit. We cared a lot for each other online, but we wanted to see if we felt the same way in person, but I certainly wasn't moving in with her.
Moving in with him before even knowing how he is in person and actually seeing if you click just as well in person is just a really bad idea. A visit would be a better idea, but I don't think he'd go for it. You don't need to rush things. A lot of times if you rush things you make huge mistakes because you don't think of the consequences and risks involved. If he doesn't want to talk to you because you won't move in with him after ONE MONTH, then I think it's time to move on. Better to be safe with your heart and emotions intact than really, terribly, truly sorry and filled with regret.0