I've asked quite a few questions on here about men liking smart or not so smart gals and it seems to me the majority prefer not so smart, which is perfectly fine. And in daily life I have also observed that guys prefer attractive not so smart girls over attractive smart girls which is again perfectly fine. I'm not a nerdy awkwardly social person, I'm actually in a sorority, one of the "top" at my school but I guess I am the nerdiest out of my sorority, I party but I don't drink and get drunk, I don't sleep around like many of my counterparts and I don't play or act stupid around guys, they happen to do all of that which works for them but even in daily life, then play or act stupid and ditsy and they still attract guys and guys seem to find the whole "stupid ditsy girl" thing attractive whether sober or not. My male friends go out with the ditsy girls, the ones who you have to explain everything to which again is fine. I know many of you will call me stupid for asking this or go on about how real men love intelligent girls or give me some speech, but in my life, real life, not on this site, guys don't prefer or care for smart girls which again is fine. I've approached guys but it never works out due to lack of chemistry. From what I've gathered talking individually to guys I know personally and on this site(certain users I won't mention) men are more attracted to ditsy or stupid girls because it doesn't intimidate them and the girls tend to be more fun and overall more attractive. I hate being a follower but sometimes being yourself won't get you anywhere, and I know this is low, but hell I'm ready, how can a girl act ditsy or stupid?
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Please, don't become stupid or ditsy. On behalf of all of us guys who prefer the attractive and smart girl over the attractive and dumb as a post girl, I beg you; stay smart!
The guys who usually go for the ditsy, stupid girls are the ones who need to be in control. They want to be in a relation with someone where they can say "she needs me to make all the decisions. I'm the brains of this outfit". They're often the same ones who act the toughest and yell the loudest. They have to have this show of power, because they know a smart girl would see through their bravado and leave them in the dust. Is that really the kind of guy you're looking for? Just something to think about.
There are plenty of us guys who dig the smart girl. We don't puff out our chests and talk about how tough we are, because we know smart girls generally don't go for that kind of thing. We are out there, we're just not as flamboyant about it. Sure, it's harder to find us, but you're a smart girl - you can do it!
And to prove that I'm not just blowing smoke, the last girl that I fell for would come in and sit down to chat with me at work (we worked for the same company). She'd usually bring a 7x7 Rubik's Cube and would consistently finish it in under five minutes, while talking with me the whole time and not missing a beat.3