Lol I was talking to one girl on fb and she was telling me she had a boyfriend. I was like oh OK nice thinking she meant a physical tangible boyfriend but no. She told me that she and this guy were dating but they haven't ever actually met...OK.
How is this possible? Sure you can get to know some one a little over the internet but that's nothing close to what it requires to really know someone face to face. She now says she's moving to his state so they can be together. OK I guess what is this? Has technology really made some of us this feeble?
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after reading the comments your main concern is that people can seem one way online but be totally different in person. that's pretty much the same as in person. how many times have you heard of some girl who fell in love with a guy only to find out after they got married that he was a total jerk? and how many times have you heard about a guy who fell in love with the "girl next door" only to find out that she not so sweet and nice once they've been dating for a few years and she's comfortable with him. you have to take a chance with people no matter if it's real life or online. you never TRULY know a person until you've spent years with them until they are comfortable enough in the relationship to let their guard down. now you may say that this is the exception and not the rule in real life but the same can be argued for online dating. most people online are just trying to find someone that they haven't been able to find in real life and as is the case with you fb friend they talk for a while and then if they feel there is a connection one moves to where the other is. I used to think the same as you then one of my best friends met a guy online she had been talking to him for over a year and one day she told us he was going to visit her and spend a few days at her house. needless to say we panicked. we were worried for her safety it seemed very reckless and she not the reckless type. on top of that she told us if we came over or called she would stop being our friends because she knew we would check in on her constantly but she was willing to be brave and take a chance having the total stranger stay at her house (or at least that's the way we saw it) but about a year after that they got married she's been with him for 10 years they have 2 beautiful children they are still very much in love and he has become one of my best friends he's such a cool & caring person, intellegent, he provides for the family their kids are still young so she is able to stay at home with them until they get a little older. if she would have listened to our paranoia she probably would have ended up with some guy who didn't love her as much as her husband does. she probably would have just settled for some guy beneath her standards that she kept seeing at a local bar which would be worse.
i can appreciate you old school view on dating because I myself am very wary still when my friends tell me they are dating someone online BUT I realize that times have changed and that more and more people are doing it so the chances of running into some crazy person isn't as likely because there are plenty of people out there tired of the "local dating scene" where the same people are always at the same places and they've all pretty much slept with each other.
your concerns are valid but we live in a society now where the person you know is just as likely to rape you as the person you don't know. I say more power to these online daters I know I wouldn't have the courage to try it.0