I had to break up with my boyfriend last night because we're both two different religions. I'm perfectly fine with that but his religion is against us dating. We're both falling for each other but I feel like he would never let it work out. I'm broken up inside because of it. I've been crying all day. One of his best friends asked me for advice for his girlfriend so I helped him out. I then told him that we were broken up figuring he already knew but he didn't. He told me that he thought it was a mistake and that he was going to talk to him. So he calls up my ex and asks him how he's doing. He then asks how we're doing and he says we're good. I don't understand why he wouldn't tell his best friend. Is he just trying to have a single night tonight and then try to work things out tomorrow? I'm so confused.
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I think he's having a hard time getting over you, and doesn't want to accept it, so that's why he acts that way towards you. As for his actions towards his friend though, I think he was putting on a defense mechanism to avoid seeming bummed or confronting the situation with him. All in all, I think he still wants you around, but understands there can't be anything serious... while inside he wants there to be... so I think this is a case of him holding onto you because he doesn't want to let go. My advise is to talk to him and tell him that you know its difficult on both parts of this relationship... but if either of you are going to have any hopes in moving forward and past it, its time to accept the losses and continue with life. Let him know that you're sorry how things turned out, but (unless he were to defy his parents, which I don't see happening) things are inevitable, and both of you need to face it. Tell him to hate you if he wants, or to understand, but you're moving on and "this is good bye." Don't be concerned afterward on how he reacts. If his friend wants to swear about you and stuff, that's their dilemma, not yours. The longer you try to figure things out and make things work, or the more you try to get feelings and reactions out of each other, the more its just going to hurt... and the more difficult it will be to move on. End it because you know its what needs to happen. It'll take time and some pain to get through it, but it'll only get worse (as you said yourself) the longer you let it go on. So you just need to be strong and do what needs to be done. I would suggest just ending this relationship for good though. You need to move on, he needs to move on. And the dramatic freak outs he displays just isn't going to help.0