Ever since I was first "on the market" some 20 years ago, it seems like no one just dates anymore. It's got to be a full-fledged relationship (or FWB these days) or nothing!
I keep meeting guys who assume after one date that we're in a relationship - and we haven't had sex, so it's not that. Yes, I would like a serious relationship, but how can how can you know if you want to be serious with someone unless you take some time to get to know them?
I feel very pressured a lot of the time (again, not in a sexual way), and it's a huge turn-off. Have other people experienced this?
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Yes, people don't understand friendship and want exclusivity right away. It's the cultural paradigm of instant gratification.
People don't understand that a lot of disappointment and pain is avoided when relationships develop and mature at their natural rhythm rather than always forcing the pace.
Then they write in to sites like this and complain about the way they were treated. Usually things won't work out when you are in a hurry and if you want to know whose fault it was, look in a mirror.
In many cultures it is customary to date in groups for a long time before pairing off.I think we should start that custom here in N America. Of course a lot of people ARE doing that, informally, more and more.
Great question mama.0