Why did he act this way?
my boyfriend worked till 1:45am last night (he is a manager at a very busy pub he is 26).i popped in last night briefly and he said he would call me the next day. he hadn't called by 4:30 and I had to go to work.
he popped on fb chat so I talked to him I told him to call me but he kept talking on that. so I called him he wasn't in the mood to talk. and when I asked why he hadn't been calling anymore he got angry and defensive. when he has a bad night at work he is usually grumpy and tired the next day and retreats to himself.
his friends had been contacting him to hang out too but he annoyed them. he said it was annoying that I call him every day. I only call once a day, we don't get to see each other much becuase we work so much.
he then told me he would break up on me if I didn't hang up becuase he knew the phone call would drag on and he was tired and wanted to chill out. he always says this because he knows it will hurt me and I would do anything for him to not break up on me.
why did he act this way?
and no don't tell me to leave him, becuase I don't want to.
i got a new job a month ago, but I really need to hear that he loves me again, being in a realtionship with someone who used to say it all the time and can't say it anymore really hurts and I don't understand why he is with me.
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He has a stressful job, working in a loud pub where he probably has to deal with a lot of drunks and other c888... . Like you said he is grumpy when he has a bad day and likes to retreat - that is understandable, you are being to clingy and needy and he doesn't need the added worries.. being demanding when he isn't in the mood will only push him away, he may have other issues with his job that he has to sort out on his own.
Just let him have a few days space every now and again, you can text him send him sweet messages once in a while (not too many) just to keep in touch to show you care and there when he is ready for you, try to be understanding and supportive of his needs right now, I'm sure he will be grateful that you are patient with him.0