I dated the most self-centered, attention seeking jerk for 3 years and am still dealing with the pain and low self-esteem it's left me with. He mad me feel worthless, I gave up on my dreams, and practically had to start my life over at 25.
Would love to hear stories of other people who have dealt with narcissistic partners and how they overcame the shattered lives they leave you with. I am completely broken and feel like I'm the one to blame, when he's been the abuser. Do they really feel nothing for their "victim" and did he really just use me for his own ego boost? I've read a lot about it, but having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that he could probably care less about me in any way when I would have done anything for him.
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If he has impacted you this strongly, you may want to think about some professional counseling and a possible support group. I was not quite as old as you are when I went through something similiar in the Navy. It made me feel worthless - even suicidal at one point. I look back now and realize that I wasn't worthless. She was. Getting your self esteem back is the first, most important and hardest part. You need to know that you are not worthless. He is. He is a dominating moron who deserves to be alone for the rest of his life.
Remember that it is better to be alone for all the RIGHT reasons than be with somebody for all the WRONG reasons.
Are you religious? Involved with a church? If so, get into the singles group there. You may not necessarily find somebody in the group, but you are going to be with others who are dealing with single life. There may be a special guy there. Or somebody may know somebody else for you. Either way, I think you will find somebody of better character, higher morals and nicer guy than in a bar. No, I am not a Bible beater, but I believe that you will have better success going this route.
You are not worthless.