My husband of 18 years has on a number of occasions chatted up woman telling one how stunning she was and taking her phone number and texting her ,is this behaviour acceptable ? as he makes me feel I'm over reacting when I have questioned him.
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Based on your entry, I don't find the behaviour acceptable at all, especially after you have expressed to him how it makes you feel.
It is one thing to look at another woman, just looking, not staring. It is another to ask for her phone number and text messaging her.
He is lacking respect towards you and he seems to not care about your opinion or how you feel.
However, you don't say anything about the 18 years together or when this behaviour started. All relationships have ups and downs, but mature relationships (independently of the age) will find a way to work things out.
Take a look at the other aspects of your marriage. Have some things changed that might have caused a change in behaviour? Work, health, finance can all cause someone to change behaviour, in both men and women.
Has he always been this way but it is just now starting to hit home? Or has he just now started this?
You know your spouse more than anyone else on this site. What gets and keeps his attention? Perhaps you can find other ways to communicate to him how you feel. Would a candle light dinner and a relaxing evening on the couch help him to be more open to listening to your feelings? Or would a pillow fight and a tickling match do the trick? Would getting him to talk about his feelings reveal something to you that would shed some light as to his behaviour?
I don't know if what I have written will help you at all.
I do know that 18 years of marriage is a record in today's society. I congratulate you and wish you all the best. You deserve it.