How often does the girl pay and how often does the guy pay? I've been dating this guy for about 2 1/2 months, (we've been on 10 dates in that time), and when we go out, he wants the bill split 50/50, or I get one meal and he gets the next...is this how most people date? Is this normal? Or should I think that because he doesn't want to pay for me, that he's not interested in a serious relationship and that he's just looking for casual fun? My ex-boyfriend would pay like 85 % of the time, so I'm not sure if this guy likes me or what he's thinking...
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It's difficult to say really. I've dated quite a bit, and a guy has never let me pay before we were in a relationship. Once we're in one, I offer to pay pretty often, although the guy still usually ends up paying more just because he wants to. During the just "dating" phase though...I've never experienced this before. No guy has ever asked me to split the bill, and when I offered they never let me. I say if it works for you then great, but you seem to have some doubts about it so maybe he's not the right guy for you. The only major rule I have about the paying thing is that he pays for the first date (if he asks). If he asked me to split on the first date, when he asked me on the date to begin with, I wouldn't go out with him again. That's just telling me he doesn't care at all about impressing me or being a gentleman. (It would be a major sign that he's either cheap or a hit it and quit it guy).
Outside of that though, if you're cool with the arrangement, then great. If not, maybe start seeing someone else.1