I have good friend who works in emergency services, and he told me something interesting yesterday. he met a girl on the job, and he kind of liked her but he didn't say anything because he kept reminding himself about "the rule". the rule is basically "do not date anyone you've directly helped or saved". he explained that after a person has been saved from a traumatic experience they have the natural tendency to grab hold of the people near them both mentally and physically, Normally this is the person who helped them.
this feeling has a life span though and is usually replaced with the feeling of being in debt to the other person. so it happens that if they start seeing each other eventually the "debt" will be "re-payed" and they'll leave or more problems will ensue. the first connection or reason why they started dating will fade and then so will the rest.
so I was wondering how true this is, if you wouldn't normally go out with the person (not your type, ect) would you start a relationship with them if you felt like you owed them? if they saved your life? share your thoughts.
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To every rule there is an "exception". Its not all the time but sometimes. I have no experience in this but I do know to any rule there is a small loop hole.
I do know that if I saved someone's life and I liked them. We had stuff in common and they were the kind of guy I went for or was attracted to, I would date them. I mean, you never know. But I don't save ppl's lives on a regular basis. And can't really say that I would bend the rule or not. Your friend sounds like he's been in that situation before.0