So through the 19 years I've lived. I've had two serious relationships, deep emotional loving relationships.
For me, I'm a tough guy on the athletic field, but when off it, I'm always polite, genuine, nice to all, and thoughtful for others.
I always end up somehow, being dumped. I do not know why, the girls always tell me they think I'm "hot" or "cute" and "handsome".
Girls always tell me, I wish I had a toned guy, who was athletic and had nice muscles and a a sweet side to them. Yeah? Okay, I have all that. I'm not a D-head or an A-hole to girls.
So when I end up dating these girls, after a good 6-8 months they always leave me. I don't know why it is, they say they love me so much, blah blah blah. They tell me they just need time to think, when they just go out looking for another guy.
I'm getting to the point where, if I ever date again, I won't care what the girl thinks and I won't invest my time into them as much, and I won't respect them like a lil' princess as much as I have been doing so. I was always the more mature person in the relationship always keeping a cool head and would rationalize things and try to talk them through a calm conversation. So what it is about girls that just say a bunch of Bull-S. then leave me for another guy?
Any ladies opinions?
Most Helpful Girl
Sigh. The eternal question. Not gonna lie, half of us don't even know what the hell we want, so answering this ain't easy.
But if I could say it in a nutshell: be respectful but don't be a sweetheart (all the time).
Nice guys are good people, in general, not just as boyfriends. There should be more of them in the world because they make the world a better place, as do nice girls.
But nice people often put their partners before themselves and this is where the problems start. Do this often enough and your girl will start to take things for granted, assume and look for the next challenge. It's the same for boys - if the girl is rot-your-teeth-sweet and hasn't a bad bone in her body, it's all nice and good but gets really old really soon because there's no surprise, no mystery, no liveliness to the relationship, you get EXACTLY what you see. And none of us want what we see, no matter how much we may deny. We want what we see and MORE.
You're not a 2-dimensional person, no matter how you present yourself online or to women. You're more than just "athletic and nice," you have a ton of other sides and streaks to you, show them! As long as you're respectful to her, be however you want to be around her.
There's no need to treat anyone like a "princess" because then she's going to start acting like one and no one wants that! Treat her like a WOMAN (not a "little princess" or little girl or any of those other things), an equal that you care about and one that isn't allowed to pull crap with you just as you're not allowed to pull anything with her. And if she has a problem with you not putting her on a pedestal, you got the wrong girl. No REAL long term relationship is going to last if the partners aren't on roughly equal footing.
Part of this is human instinct, we all seek strong partners (ones that are at least as strong as us) and unfortunately, niceness is often misconstrued as weakness, for both genders. And you're not weak, so don't show only niceness.
Hope this helped!3
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