I was talking to a guy online for quite a while. For whatever reason, we stopped talking for about a month. I decided to email him (I'm really shy, so it took a lot for me to do that, after not talking to him for so long. The situation before we stopped didn't help, either). We just exchanged a few emails like, 'we haven't talked for a while', and 'how are you', and other I would rather not get into. So, I told him I missed talking to him. Then, he sends me the following quote: "The greatest irony of life is loving the right person at the wrong time, having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone after that person walks out from your life and sometimes you think you’re already over a person but when you see them smile at you, you’ll suddenly realize that you’re just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again. For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person. Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love; love is always present. It’s just the one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that’s the reason why the heart is not always right. Most often we fall in love with the person we think we love only to discover that for them, we are just for past times, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger. Here’s a piece of advice: let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough and move on when things are not like before. There is someone out there who will love you even more, surely then, you will know true love."
I wasn't sure how to take it. I was a bit shocked, because I understand, but... Ugh, I don't even know what I'm asking right now xD Just... how would you take that quote?
Also, we kept emailing after that quote, and I sent him a few songs. I sent him 2 emails, both saying, 'did you listen to them?' or something along those lines. AOL tells whether or not they read your emails, and he did. I haven't been sending any more emails, as I feel he has lost interest, just doesn't want to talk to me, or I'm annoying. Any advice on whether I should completely stop emailing him, or keep trying to talk to him?
I really appreciate any help. Thank you! =\
I think I'm just gonna stop emailing. If he emails back, that's great and all.
Oh, and a couple people said that he might not be able to "like" me right now, I think you're right. We were talking about how a lot of bad things were happening in his life before we stopped emailing, and also that I'd get upset with him if he told me (I'm guessing an ex?).
So, again, thank you all! It really helped :3
I did some thinking after posting this, and I have realized it was my fault in the end that we got like this. I just didn't handle anything well (I'm extremely socially awkward...). Uh... I suppose that's all. If anything new happens, I'll post if you like.
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I think he probably just gave up. 7 months is an extremely long time to "think" about meeting someone. Normally in online dating you meet up for coffee or something anywhere from one to three weeks after you start talking, give or take. And once you meet it is only to see if their is chemistry there. There shouldn't be any pressure to "fall in love" right away.
I think it would be a waste of time to wait 7 months and then finally meet someone only to discover we have zero chemistry. Real life interactions are not always the same. You get a feel for a person's facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, and well, you know that.5