I want to know how girls would respond to a scenario.
I asked this question before and got only reassurance (which was nice), but now I'm looking for something different.
I want you to think before you answer so there's no automatic don't-feel-bad-about-yourself response from girls. I don't feel bad about myself. But I want to know what I might expect when girls learn about some baggage that's effected my dating life.
Before you answer, take a few minutes. Imagine how you'd react, what your opinion might be, what you might say, and what you think of long-term or short-term relationships with a guy in this scenario.
Here's the scenario:
You meet a 31 year old guy. He's tall and good looking. He's funny in a dry way, very intelligent. He seems a little shy sometimes, but he's not a social misfit. He has a good-paying, stable job.
After a few dates you start to really like him, and you think about getting exclusive.
However, you learn he has been on only a handful of dates and has very little physical experience with girls due to suffering sexual abuse in his childhood. For most of his life he was deep in depression. Only in the last few years has he started to deal with the abuse and getting his life on track.
How might you respond in a scenario like this?
I'm asking because I recently told a female friend that I was a virgin, and she was shocked. She assumed I got laid a lot -- which was a good ego boost, I admit -- and initially thought I was kidding about being a virgin.
My friend's response made me wonder how dates might react to a scenario like this.
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I would be shocked and would probably want to ask a lot of questions but would restrain myself from doing so. Because I wouldn't want to offend you in any way. I would just listen to whatever you feel comfortable sharing. A part of me would feel bad about what had happen to you but a bigger part would be happy for you that you've gotten out of the depression and started getting your life on track. And if I really liked you I would say something like "I can help you broaden your physical experience" just to lighten the mood, of course hoping it would result in a smile or a laugh.and if it offends you then I would feel like an ass haha.
Anyways I think that would be my initial reaction. Hope this somewhat helps you. :)2